“Why do you need more queer friends?”

The fact that you have to ask why answers your own question, but allow me to explain…

I need more queer friends because I’m finding it increasingly difficult to relate to all the straight, cis-gender people in my life.

I need more queer friends because I want to discuss gender and sexuality in ways that my straight, cis friends don’t and cannot understand.

I need more queer friends because I was stunned into silence when my straight cis female friend said, “When I see a man in a dress, I refer to him as ‘she,'” because clothing clearly is always a perfect indicator of gender.

I need more queer friends because I just get so damn frustrated when I’m talking to my best male friend, who has no experience of being queer in any way, and questions my experience so thoroughly that I feel like I’m being interrogated.

I need more queer friends because questioning your gender and sexuality is something queer people can understand.

I need more queer friends because I want some sense of community and belonging.

I need more queer friends because I am queer.

Cognitive Distortion Number One,

constantly saying the phrase, “I can’t.”

I can’t get up on time.

I can’t do the reading for those classes.

I can’t lift weights today.

I can’t open my mail today.

I can’t write that paper.

I can’t pretend to be upbeat for this next customer.

I can’t make that phone call.

I can’t run those errands.

Attempt at reversal:

I will try to get up on time.

I will do some of the reading for classes.

I will work out when I have ample time.

I will open the important mail.

I will work on that paper one bit at a time.

I will just be myself, fuck it.

That phone call can wait.

Those errands will still be there tomorrow.