Everything since May has blended together in one mass of vague memories and what feels like a fuck ton of driving. I looked at the trees yesterday and saw how drastically the leaves had changed from lush green to the revered colors of autumn everyone adores so much. When did that happen? Wasn’t it just a few weeks ago that it was 90 degrees and raining, droplets gliding off the spines of those green leaves? Jesus, I was in Detroit two and a half months ago–it feels like I’m still there, in a way. I also sort of wish I still was; still wish I was sleeping on a mattress on the floor in my cousin’s house, my grandfather’s leather chair seated in the meticulously decorated living room. I sort of wish I could kick back at Sneaker’s Pub again and sit on the edge of the strip of what is truly gentrification.

Burning rage has been bubbling up inside me for months on end now. Maybe it was finally graduating–you know, finally achieving that thing that was supposed to fix everything. But it’s only caused more stress, really. Maybe it’s my resume, or what’s on my resume, or maybe the degrees I have really are “useless.” But I can’t handle sitting, festering, in my box of a bedroom anymore. I can’t handle the noises from beyond the paper thin walls. I can’t handle the noises from anyone. I feel like I need blinders. Why does that girl have to go on the treadmill right next to me?

If I keep my body moving, the anxiety, anger, stress–they can’t get to me. But as soon as I stop, they attack again. I already feel the tingle in my scalp. My leg is already bouncing rapidly. Yet I’m really trying. The exercise. Completely changing my diet. Fuck Greek yogurt. Fuck Perdue chicken. I take my vitamins every day. I take my medication. I try to be productive. But I still feel like a caged and frenzied animal–either a massive breakdown is coming or an assault charge, although I guess they’re one and the same.


Death, & how not to deal with it.

My aunt and uncle’s cat got hit by a car.

A lot of people think I’m loony for feeling so much love for animals, and for how deeply they effect me, but that’s just how I grew up. I also loved that cat. I shared her adoption post on Facebook two years ago and my aunt drove straight downtown and picked her up; this tiny, alien-eyed calico kitten. Even as an adult cat she was tiny and still alien-eyed, a rambunctious yet incredibly sweet little cat. She loved everyone.

I always thought she would get carried away by a hawk if she got outside. But the car won. And the driver didn’t stop. That always gets me.

I have been mourning, for lack of a better and less melodramatic word, for about 14 hours now. I’ve never truly had to deal with death–only the deaths of animals held near and dear to me. And that hurts.

This event triggered a breakdown of violently sobbing in my bed at 1 in the morning. The breakdown was bound to happen, but no one ever wants a breakdown to happen, ever.

I barely slept and did not sleep well. When I woke up my eyes were swollen halfway shut and the bags that hung under them were unlike anything I’d ever seen on my own face before. I made it to work and lasted a full 58 minutes before my lovely coworker Sarah told me to just leave, that she would cover for me. She understands more than anyone else ever could.

I cried about Ella, but I also cried about everything else that had been stacking up inside myself for months on end–the frustrating and depressing struggle of getting nowhere in the hunt for a better paying, more curated to my skills, job. The need for physical space and to truly be an independent adult. The heavy weight of loneliness because my friends are in different places, physically and emotionally, and I miss the old days. And also the heaviness of truly being alone, and realizing that is reality and probably will be for a very long time. And feeling left out and very behind because of that. Most of all, I cried because as much as I know it is just the way it is and it’ll never be the same, and it actually is somewhat better this way, it is painful to have a family that is entirely broken. No one else can understand it. We don’t even understand it.

The few people I’ve known who have died were not really in my life in a significant way. A few have actually died and a few have just died in a metaphorical sense. No one exists until they exist within the realm of my senses.

There will be no more Christmases with Ella aloof in my arms, hankering for cat treats, just as there haven’t been Christmases spent with my family, around the table covered in cheese plates and wine glasses, in a long time.

646 – 709 Workplace & Careers

It’s just a Monday. I’m depressed; more depressed than usual. I don’t really do well with continuous amounts of free time. I mean, I woke up late, ate too large of a breakfast, then fell asleep on the couch while watching Cuckoo on Netflix (which, by the way, is so cringe-y that I’m not sure if I can revisit it).

It took so much strength just to get up–and when I did, I cooked some chicken breasts I had thawed. I hope they’re alright. I haven’t tried them yet. They seem dry. I normally take the time to cook them in a pan and douse them in sauces, but I went for a brush-on of jarred curry and some extra seasonings today. Then I jerked off for like, I don’t know, an hour or so? It was fine. It was hot–and I do absolutely need to change my sheets tonight.

I finally pulled myself out of that and slapped some makeup on before packing my backpack and heading to the library. That’s just what I do now when I need to get out of the house. It forces me to do things like this–write a terrible blog post. Also job search, but that always leads me to resting my head against my hand and staring at my laptop screen incredulously.  I feel like I’ve looked so much that I don’t know what else to look for. I’m sure I need more professional help with my resume. I should do that soon. I just need space, literally. I need more money in order to get my own space though. I’m an adult, like a full-blown adult. I can’t handle being in one small room all the time.

Hence, the library. I don’t even want to be here. Some days I look forward to it, but not tonight. I just stayed up until 6am the other day drinking, but I wouldn’t mind getting drunk again. Instead, I guess I’ll dick around here some more, then maybe go get some organic cotton balls for my vape. Oh yeah, I’m 6 days smoke-free.

That’s something. That is something.

Radiohead; Detroit.


The highways are like a claustrophobic blur of beige concrete and white headlights whizzing past me, despite my already-illegal speed.

“After years of waiting

/ nothing came.”

I’m distracted by driving in this foreign land, but all I want is to be back in the overcrowded, overheated room, entranced by the green and white glimmering lights. My brain strains to pack away the memories of booming, soothing sounds and fluid movement, and the weight of the man next to me, and the stoic face of the girl to the left of me. I want to be back in the overwhelming mythology of it–the expectation had been nill, forgotten really, but the results had been too spectacular for my mind to comprehend in the moment.

It feels like I’m driving on the highway forever. The GPS on my phone tells me I have eight more miles until the exit for 11 Mile Road. Maybe it feels like it’s taking so long because the other cars are flying past at top speed, and I’m in the far right carefully navigating a new stretch of earth.

I’m restless when I return; my body begs for rest, but my mind is overactive near the point of hallucination. I need to eat, I need water, I need a cigarette. Susanna and I drive to the nearby grocery store, well, knock-off Walmart, and my vision drinks up the stark white interior and brightly colored boxes and bags, and the memory of the night’s glory are already sinking away.

Hire me.

I don’t even know where or how to look for a new job anymore. I always knew my city was known for its medical and technological advancements and employment, but hitting the job market after finally getting my four-year degree is unnerving. Even the writing jobs are within medical or technological fields. Not something I can really jump into.

Publishing? Editing? Coming up empty-handed. I guess I could look more into tutoring and teaching. I gave up on one teaching application because it was so goddamn long, and also, I really don’t have any solid references.

LinkedIn has become so depressing. My pool of connections is a wading pool at best. Meanwhile one of my college pals got a job that is entirely writing based, at a reputable business that I’m fond of.

I’m happy for him. I am. But also, we both graduated in May.

What the fuck.

All I know is, if I have to stand for eight hours at a time for much longer, I might just bust both my knees, and if I can’t work on my lower body strength, I have no reason to go on.

Fourth of July.

I think I fucked up cooking the spaghetti balls. I really only had to throw them in a pan with some oil, but they taste weird, so I guess vegetable oil was the wrong move. I can’t cook. Also, Bennett left red Gatorade in my fridge and I don’t know why she chose that flavor. Red. The red flavor.

“Sixteen Saltines” by Jack White is playing on a loop in my head. Black hat, white shoes, & I’m red all over. My nails are longer than they’ve been in years–somehow I haven’t bitten them off, and let’s not pretend I’m fucking any women.

“You should still try.”

The other night Susanna and I got way, way too drunk. I will shamefully admit that I used to sort of enjoy being casually passed around from friend to friend for innocent sexual experimentation, but now I feel like a piece of meat–you have fun with me for like five minutes but don’t even make a commitment beyond that, then when you sober up you all go back to your boyfriends. Literally. But part of me is still thinking, Make a fucking move, because I haven’t kissed anyone in two years, let alone had sex with anyone.

Oh boy, I’m really winning here.

So Susanna had her hand on my inner thigh about two inches from my crotch all night, her other arm around my waist, leaning onto me. She gleefully bit the side of my neck at one point. And I get wasted too, but I still have low self-esteem when I’m drunk, so I don’t make a move. Also, I have no intentions of ruining a good friendship.

Although I may have done that with a male friend of mine. I forget how infatuated I am with him and how badly I want to fuck him until I see him, which is seldom, and the last time, I was plastered. And way too handsy. Because I get handsy when I’m really drunk. I didn’t grope him or anything, but it was probably pushing the boundary of, “She’s just being drunkenly affectionate.” Nah, I wanted to fuck.

Who’s jealous of who?

97 degrees.

It’s only the third day of July (by the way, happy birthday, dad) and I’m already torn down, oppressed by my own dwindling mental health, and unsure of what to do with myself. I’m supposed to be at work in nine minutes and although I carefully crafted my face to be suitable for the day, I’m still in the clothes I slept in last night and I’m looking for other jobs; although I’ve been doing that for a little while now.

I just can’t do it today. I really can’t. And I’ve never not called in. I’ve never just failed to show up. But I can’t bear to dial the number, hear the profound disappointment and frustration in my manager’s voice. It’ll just be strike one, anyway, and the guilt of letting down my coworkers will eat me up more than any threat of punishment.

Dealing with customers, assholes, has started to just absolutely crush me. The most infuriating part of my job is not being able to stand up for myself–someone dumps on you but you just have to continue to be polite to them, because for some fucked up reason, they have the power and you don’t.

Looking outside right now, I love this world. But my god, people have got to learn some basic decorum. Actually, people over the age of 40. Middle-aged people and the elderly have such an unwarranted sense of self-entitlement. Damn millennials abiding by the company policies of the places they work for.

I can’t quite determine if I’m actually about to take a nosedive into a depressive episode or if this is purely circumstantial depression, but I hope it’s the latter. I’ve been pretty stable for a while (except for that final semester of school, but even then I was managing better than I had in the past) and the constant fear of losing that is exhausting. I’m lonely, I’m drained by my job, I have little money, and all the hopes I ever had for any sort of future seem so unattainable, even in the smallest sense. I mean, I don’t even know what else to look for in terms of finding a different job, a job that pertains to my actual skills and my actual degrees. I live in a city that is fueled by hospitals, rapidly growing technology, and anything related to the hard sciences. I have a two-year degree in psychology and a four-year degree in English. Which seem like decent degrees, but around here, it’s certainly proving not to be the case.

A posting for an internship at one of the local news stations required “previous internship experience.” Goddamn.